Words are one of the most powerful tools we have in life. Each and everyday we have the choice to use them to inspire and uplift or to discourage and demean. In this era of “viral” technology, our words have the potential to have even wider impact whether for good or bad.
We seem to be pretty clear on this when we think about the impact our words have on others, but have you ever thought about the impact your words have on your own perspective of self? The words you speak and think have the same influence on you that they have on others. Are you speaking words of success or failure when you talk to yourself?
I have been paying a lot of attention to words lately. One of the words I’d like us to eliminate from our vocabulary is “can’t” or more importantly “I can’t”. How often in life do you say “I can’t” when what you really mean is “I don’t” or “I choose not to”. Sure, life is full of obstacles and challenges, but when you really look at things, it all boils down to personal choices. So when you find yourself at the office in the morning and someone has brought in doughnuts, when you think or say “I can’t have one of those”, you have already set yourself up for failure. Your mind is already telling you that you have been deprived of something that you want and value. Since willpower is an exhaustible resource, the next choice you have to make will be that much harder.
What might happen if you turn it around though. Think about it, when you are faced with the doughnut, what might happen if you say ” I don’t eat doughnuts. I know that I will feel awful after the sugar crash and totally regret the calories later.” Now you feel strong and empowered rather than deprived and punished. You have stepped up and successfully faced a challenge. This feeling of accomplishment will make the next choice a little easier to make rather than harder.
It is so important to plant seed of success with the words we use. As they grow, we get stronger in our resolve and focus. Each moment of empowerment fuels the next situation with strength.
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